Fiber washers should get a very thin coat of grease, plastic washers are dry (if you grease them they will slip too much). Shimano has a washer that is black and very smooth, not sure what it is made of but it does not get any grease.
You will get many different answers about leather washers, some say oil to protect them, some say grease will work better. Some say leave them dry? I rough them up and then use a very thin coat of grease, so thin you can't see it but you know it's there.
Yes the release should get a thin coat of grease, nothing should get a lot as grease will attract dirt.
As far as the super tune, have you seen the article in the How To's of Ultimate Bass?
http://www.ultimatebass.com/content/view/72/225/If you haven't read threw it (6 pages at the beginning of the article you will see the index to the right of the text giving you links to the other pages). This is where I started and then trial and error. So read through it if you haven't and then let me know the questions you have.