Almost Homeless

Carolina Linda · May 24, 2010, 10:21:48 PM

Please take a moment to read my latest article on ebassfish.com titled "Almost Homeless - Cheri's Story". It is about a fellow angler and cancer patient that many of you have been saying prayers for over the past few months.

muskygirl · May 29, 2010, 05:03:06 PM

I am so grateful that Linda has taken it upon herself to talk and ask for help on my behalf. Lord knows I have the hardest time asking for help - I have always found it hard........mainly because I feel there are more worst off then me. The cancer is one thing, but this past year has been so so hard on me and so unreal. I have always been the one who was the giver - when I was working as a teacher, my paychecks always went for these things in order:

1. Bills
2. The kids/families in my classroom - making sure that the kids always had their needs met if they weren't being met at home for one reason or another. Making sure I had the best learning toys and materials in the classroom when the school couldn't afford them. Making sure that the kids had prizes and treats to reward them for good behavior and for working hard on completing tasks (my kids were special needs children).
3. My cats
4. The household
and lastly the rest (if there was any) would go for my needs.

It is so stressful not knowing where my next dollar will come from, and when I do get some money, which bill is more important then the other to pay on.

I am learning the meaning behind "you don't know what you have until it is gone". I have never in my life ever had to worry about when the phone or gas or electric will be cut off. Wither I still have someplace to live next month or if there is enough gas to make it to a job interview or doctor appointments. I see three different doctors - none of them local. The two furthest are in Green Bay which is 100 miles away one way and Chicago which is 200 miles away one way. How does one learn to live life with out a cent coming into the house. Ya - there is the food stamps I get each month, but you can ONLY buy food with the. No soap, cleaning supplies, paper and toilet products, meds and other personal items not covered with my cancer grant (that pays for anything cancer related).

So it boils down to one, not knowing how to ask for help and two - we are always taught that begging is bad.

So with that said - please, please remember me in your prayers that things change for the good real soon.

Thanks again all - it means so much that my fishing "family" cares so much.

And again, thanks so very much Linda for all your doing to try to send help my way.

muskygirl · May 30, 2010, 01:14:52 AM

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/muskygirl

Ron Fogelson · May 30, 2010, 02:37:17 AM

Thank you for posting this.

Prayers sent, things do get better wth faith

Donald Garner · May 30, 2010, 03:35:25 AM

I will keep you in my daily prayers.

Bassinkorea · May 30, 2010, 05:37:16 AM

Muskygirl,
I'm so sorry to hear of your bad times, but I'm sure everything will work out for the best in the long run. Good luck with EVERYTHING!!

BAYFEVER22 · May 30, 2010, 07:26:02 AM

what can i do to help besides pray. jerry

muskygirl · May 30, 2010, 06:48:07 PM

Quote from: Carolina Linda on May 27, 2010, 09:47:50 PM
Quote from: oldschool on May 27, 2010, 10:31:17 AM
Thank you for sharing part of your life and please do not hesitate to let us know what we can do to help.
Tom

I am going to reply to this for Cheri because the purpose of this article was to bring attention to her situation.

Gift cards from stores like Wal-Mart are very helpful for buying groceries and toiletries.

Pre-paid gas cards would enable Cheri to put gas in her van to get back and forth to the doctors and get her treatments.

Cash would help her pay on her utility bills and rent.

Prayers are always needed.

GermanKnight · July 21, 2010, 05:01:34 PM

what can i do as well besides pray? if there is anything i will certainly try my hardest.

These past few years have been hard on me too, with a really heavy heroin addiction, and going to jail over heroin.

almost 5 months clean sorta. i go to a methadone clinic, so i dont get cravings.. but that is nothing compared to what your going through.

I will pray for you constantly. i can send food as well if and when i have money, or some items listed your food stamps dont pay for.

muskygirl · September 18, 2010, 12:02:25 AM

Well, it has been almost 4 months since this topic was started so I thought I would stop in and say hi and give a up-date.

I am still fighting the battle with the cancer and my health. Last week I started back up on the chemo treatments and medications. I have my good days and my bad days. On my bad days, I am mostly trying to cope with the anger and frustations of dealing with being labeled as "disabled" and watching what has been taken away from me due to the cancer and side effects. I can no longer expect to find a job in my chosen fields (teacher or caregiver) and that has been the hardest to deal with.

I am still laid off, going on almost a year pretty soon. I did get offered a job last week to work every other weekend at a halfway house. I hope that later down the road it can turn into more hours, but for now, I am grateful I at least have a foot in the door. It isn't even going to begin to make a dent into the hole I am in right now, but something is better then nothing right now.

I still journal about my cancer and going on's at http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/muskygirl so if you get a chance, please stop by and say "hi".

Thanks everyone for checking in

Donald Garner · September 18, 2010, 01:51:29 AM

Thanks for the updates.

Your in my daily prayers. Keep the faith.

Mike Cork · September 21, 2010, 11:39:08 AM

Thank you for stopping back by.

A foot in the door is a great thing. While it's not a full time job it's better off than the day before. One step at a time and keeping positive will go along way towards beating this.

Your still in our thoughts and we hope you recover soon to fish with the ladies again!

Lipripper · September 22, 2010, 01:49:23 PM

MG you will always be in my prayers as you know. For those of y'all who don't know me and MG have known each other for years and have fished together and right now I think she could use a good laugh

Here ya go MG this will bring back some good memories.
Don't go into the light and be sure to bow to the boob tent

muskygirl · September 23, 2010, 03:05:24 PM

Thanks everyone.....and LIP

"pull up dumb***"

man, lots of great times, lots of great memories

everyone can still follow my progress here http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/muskygirl

Lipripper · September 24, 2010, 10:39:19 AM

Quote from: muskygirl on September 23, 2010, 03:05:24 PM
Thanks everyone.....and LIP

"pull up dumb***"

man, lots of great times, lots of great memories

everyone can still follow my progress here http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/muskygirl

Yelp we have had some great time together with our other friends camping and fishing together.

Ron Fogelson · September 25, 2010, 01:52:34 AM

I've read this thread over and over and just never knew what to say but sent a prayer your way each time I saw the topic.

Very sorry to hear of the on going health and financial issues, was nice to see you got an offer and continue to pray things even out for you in a hurry.

Take Care
Fogy

randyj · September 25, 2011, 11:36:34 AM

Muskygirl...Hoping all is well for you! You are definitely not begging so don't feel that you are and for sure, there is nothing wrong with finding ways to meet your needs. To beg is one thing but to let people know you have needs takes courage and strength. IMO, the most important and usually the most difficult thing in an illness is to keep a good attitude and a smile on your face. I'm sure you already have learned a whole new appreciation for small things, who are truly friends, and who you can depend on as well as some very big disappointments... but you also learn humbleness, humility, and the value of a smile.